Worrying about what you cannot control leads to anxiety, fear paralysis and perfectionism.
One thing for sure is that you have little control over unexpected events. What you do have control over is how you will respond to the challenges that life can throw at you.
Being in a heightened state of anxiety or fear puts you at a disadvantage to respond to the unexpected or future events. Your body remains constantly in a high stress state impacting both your physical and mental health.
Here is a simple explanation of the brain science of stress and fear. When you are stressed or experiencing fear and anxiety the signals from your body posture, blood pressure, and parasympathetic nervous system keeps your brain in the fight, flight, freeze cycle in the Limbic System – the so called emotional brain. When the amygdala (processes emotions) in your Limbic System is firing you are in...
Overwhelmed by problems? Follow these 6 easy problem solving steps to get unstuck and find solutions to your problems - small and large. Use the 6 problem-solving steps to work through issues that are holding you back or creating conflict in your relationships. Happiness is not the absence of problems it is having the ability to solve them.
Sometimes it is not enough to just cope with your problems or issues you need to be able to work through them and find solutions. People who can solve problems have a greater sense of control in their lives and increased well-being.Problem Solving Skills can help you:
work through issues
overcome challenges
maintain relationships
gain a sense of control in your life
develop coping strategies
feel less stressed
feel less overwhelmed
feel less worry and anxiety
be less frustrated about issues
Following a step-by-step plan to define your problem, brainstorm solutions, implement, evaluate... 
A grateful world is full of joyful, happy people. How you imagine your happiness may differ from other people but we all want to be happy. To be happy you need to live a grateful life. Gratitude keys will help you be grateful and feel the happiness and joy in every moment you experience.What is Happiness?Some people appear to have everything but they are not happy always wanting more. Others have experienced misfortunes and sadness yet they are radiate happiness and joy. They are happy and joyful because they are grateful. Happiness does not make us grateful. Gratefulness makes us happy.What is Gratefulness?What makes us feel grateful at a heart level? When something that's really valuable to you and you realise that it's freely given, then gratefulness spontaneously rises in your heart. That is how gratefulness happens. Spontaneously, with the heartfelt gratitude, happiness and joy rises in your heart. Living Gratefully.You... 
The result of untreated stress - dis-stress, can lead to physical symptoms including headaches, upset stomach, elevated blood pressure, chest pain, and problems sleeping. Chronic, untreated stress reactions are strongly associated with major mental health disorders and life- threatening physical disease.Stress is a normal part of life. The human body is designed to respond to stress triggers from your environment and internally from your body or your thoughts. Stress can be positive, keeping you alert and ready to respond to danger. Stress becomes negative when you are continually triggered by ‘stress-full’ challenges without any downtime – relief or relaxation.Benefits of Stress Reduction o Better concentration/focuso More stable moodso Improved communication/relationshipso Better physical healtho Increased sense of control of time and activity
What is Stress?
“Stress arises when individuals perceive that they cannot adequately cope with the demands being made on them or with demands being made on them or with threats... 
Thumbnail Photo Credit: David Sherry & Allie LehmanOptimism in the face of adversity allows you to stay out of the emotional overwhelm and engage with the wise mind! A realistic approach to problems gives you a better chance of finding a solution that works for you. The Dali Lama has a simple message in the face of adversity "do what you can and accept what you can’t!" Yes beautiful one you are doing the best you can and when you know better you will do better.
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Journal Use the 30 optimistic messages to your self and notice the changes in your attitude to and the way you manage your problems. Write or art journal your reflections over the next 30 days and I guarantee that you will change your brain to change your mindset. Photo Credit: Maresa Smith
30 Optimistic Messages to Your Self... 
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Shift a Problem-Saturated Focus to a Solution-Finding Zone
A positive attitude or positive self-talk may not solve all your problems but it will put you in a better space to find solutions. When you shift your self-talk to “what is the best way to get through this?” you will move out of a problem-saturated state into a positive solution-focused zone. Your body's anxiety/fear response calms and brain cortisol levels reduce. The brain's alarm bell (the amygdala) settles and endorphins - the feel good hormones, are released and flood your brain and body. The biofeedback body-brain cycle reduces the fear you are experiencing. You can now access the memory and creativity part of your brain and connect to your higher functions in the brain's frontal cortex.This is how the science worked for me.I was camping with my friend and our children in the Australian bush. My friend... 
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The Power of Positive Self-Talk
Do you want to feel calmer and less anxious? Do you want to improve your health and well-being, and confidence? Do you want to have the energy to give your goals your best effort? Your positive words and outlook has a powerful impact on your actions.Each time I sat down to write an internal voice in my head said "you can't write". This self-dialogue had been running for many years and despite all the evidence that countered this claim each time I was required to write a report or an assignment the thought "you can't write" created a change in my brain and my body. My heart would race, I felt sick in the stomach, I was unable to focus, and often I would avoid the task because my my mind was in turmoil. The thought changed my brain and my... 
Why Art Journal?
LisaDiana Delaney
Because I want to feel better! I finally want to be in control of my brain disease symptoms and be able to function like a "normal" person. To do that, I need to be able to "dump" my symptoms . Did you see I didn't say, "my emotions"? Why? Because I see Bi-Polar 2 as a brain disease with symptoms NOT a mental illness. That's MY view on it. It's not in my mind. It's in my brain and it causes anxiety, panic, tremors, stammering, dizziness, exhaustion and a depth of depression that is bottomless. Those are MY symptoms. I don't create them. They are caused by my brain disease. I'm not responsible for my symptoms any more than a cancer patient is responsible for hers. My view might not be familiar or popular but I believe the only way to change anything, like the terrible... 
Respect (definition) is a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.Respect has many facets.Respect for gender. Respect for culture. Respect for religious or spiritual beliefs. Respect for sexual preference.Respect for Your-Self.
Different but part of the whole
Respect difference - yours and mine.
Not everyone has the same values, beliefs or ways of being AND that is OK.You can respect difference AND enjoy connection.Diversity adds a richness to life
Have you ever let something go until the resentment explodes from you like a spewing volcano?Have you tried to avoid conflict by "swallowing" the anger at the lack of consideration for your needs or disrespect for you? When you have had a "gut full" you finally ask for what like a screaming banshee only to have the other person say "why didn't you tell me?" or loose the relationship/friendship/job.Be respectful with others -... 
Sleep rejuvenates your body, mind and spirit
An adequate amount of regular sleep is essential for good mental health. 8 hours sleep is recommended for the average adult. Research shows that healthy sleep habit strategies provide a long-term solution to sleep difficulties.Medications tend to be effective in the short-term however the ongoing use of sleeping pills may lead to dependence and interfere with developing good sleep habits independent of medication.Sufficient and restful sleep is a human necessityStudies have shown that if your regular sleep hours are reduced by one hour over a three-week period your physical, mental and emotional well-being is impacted negatively. You may begin to experience mental health issues, such as anxiety, depression and stress-induced symptoms. Poor or reduced hours of sleep can affect your daily functioning - fatigue, irritability, tension headaches, and poor concentration and memory.InsomniaInsomnia is defined as difficulty initiating or maintaining sleep at least 3 nights... 